The Beauty Of Black Women

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Most little girls play dress up and put on their mother’s heels, make up and like to feel like a princess. All our story books are filled with stories of romance. The sweet innocent princess is rescued by the handsome charming prince. As the story goes, Snow White  was under a spell and it took “true loves kiss” to wake her! As children, we think romance and beauty is what we see on tv. A fair skin young lady is seen as beautiful and women of color are portrayed as sassy.  When I was younger I remember seeing black women dancing around in videos in a very sexual way. The music was vulgar and the women appeared aggressive. Fast forward twenty something years later and not too much has changed. Black women are seen as aggressive and are unappreciated.

As a kid I thought beauty was fashion and makeup. I never considered the complexion of someone’s skin, social economic status etc as beauty. If your dress was nice and handbag was pretty I thought that that was beauty. As an adult I see beauty in everything. I see beauty in nature and in art! I want to know how other black women feel about beauty and how black women are perceived in society.  I decided to sit with Brandi Turner to get her take on beauty.

The Many Images of Black Women

As Brandi mentioned there are many different shades of black women. Which is a good thing! This idea that lighter skin black women are somehow more attractive than darker skin black women is a LIE! The lie continues to live because of how black women are portrayed in society and media. Remember the story of Snow White she was seen as sweet and innocent and needed to be rescued. She spoke softly and had fair skin. There are women that are that way, however, when you’re not why are you seen as loud, angry or obnoxious?  As black women society tends to go a step further and if we don’t take on that image we are seen as aggressive, rebellious and angry!

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I was raised by a single mother and I’m now a single parent. Obviously, no one plans to be a single parent, however, things happen.  There are fewer black women married than any other race.  Black men are more likely to date outside their race.

We’re not all single mothers there are plenty of successful black married couples. Meet Tamica Webb, she has been married to Peter for almost five years they have one son and a week ago she graduated from Columbia College and she’s’ my younger cousin!  Tamica and I sat down and talked about her perception of beauty as a black woman.

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Society plays a major role in the way we view beauty! I see beauty in everything. It’s so much more than the outer appearance of person. I’m so bored with videos, movies and all the images around us that try to push their beauty standards on to us.

You never see a full-figured women as the love interest in a movie as if full figured women aren’t being pursued! Why does the blonde have to play dumb?  Stop buying into the hype. I’m over it! I love beauty and fashion just like the next person but I buy what I like and if what I like just so happens to be on trend…well that’s even better!

Chub Rub

Spring is here and we’re exchanging our long pants for dresses, skirts and swimsuits. This is also the time of the year where we’re more likely to experience chub rub or inner thigh chafing. Chafing can occur anywhere of your body to both men women. It’s caused by working out, wearing tight clothes, moisture and friction.

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I’m guilty of squeezing into a tight pant which causes my inner thighs to rub against the inside of the pant and creates friction & moisture and causes chafing.  It’s important to use lubricate and or wear something like shapeware to serve as a barrier.  I try to be consistent about applying a lubricate while wearing dresses, skirts but I forget about my pants.  I don’t have a “thigh gap” my thighs are really good friends they spend all of their time together!

Prevent chafing by…

  • Keep your commonly moist areas dry
  • Change out wet clothes immediately
  • Lubricate problem areas

You can purchase otc items like baby powder, petroleum jelly, and shapewear to protect your skin and prevent chafing. I personally use deodorant it’s convenient when and I don’t need to add another product to my shopping list. You can get a cheap sample size and leave it in your purse or bag. Be sure to clean and pat dry the area before applying your preferred product.  If you’re currently experiencing chafing you can use aloe vera, oatmeal, olive oil. essential oils etc to help sooth the discomfort.

Discolorations from chaffing…

Chafing is generally red on fairer skin and generally darker on people of color which is called hyperpigmentation. I deal with hyperpigmentation and I found a honey, lemon and sugar scrub recipe that you can use all over your body!  Lemons naturally lightens skin, the sugar is used as a exfoliate to remove dead skin and the honey is gentle for your body.

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If you need something stronger you  can use otc products like Ambi to reduce discoloration and it’s good for all skin types or contact your Dermatologist.

Lemon, honey & sugar scrub

1.5 tsp of lemon juice

2 tsp of sugar

2 tsp of honey

Until next time…